Ghosting is the most popular term in the dating world right now – people disappear at an alarming rate with no traces to be found. You are left with your phone going all Lady Macbeth between your last texts, Facebook messages and Instagram, and sometimes the dating APP you met on, depending on what resources are available to you.
Bumble is great because of the geotracker. You can see how far the person is from your location. Facebook and Instagram will tell you when they were last active, all assuring you that unfortunately he is alive and well.
Ghosting is the most cowardly, shitty thing someone can do to you. Nothing makes you feel more worthless than a person trying to avoid you at all costs without a single explanation. You go insane thinking about every word you said, every face you made, every awkward laugh you had, all the jokes you didn’t laugh at and so on.
WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK?
How does one person go from saying “you are a keeper” after an incredible date, to not responding to your good morning text the next day? I still don’t fucking know. But I have this guy on Facebook and am hoping he’ll read my blog!
I found a great article to help me cope with being ghosted:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-couch/201705/6-ways-deal-the-pain-being-ghosted
TLDR: Acknowledge that it hurts and then…
The Married Girl On Bumble 
I used to do that to people 😞
Not pride of it. But I felt so awful to tell people how I wasn’t interested in them and don’t want to see them ever again. I didn’t want to lie or make up an excuse. I felt vanishing hurts people less than actually telling people “sorry, not interested”. Also, no matter how nice the msg is, you feel like a crap after sending “sorry,not interested”.
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Yes, sometimes it is SO much easier to ignore things and let people take the hint. But I’ve had both experiences: being ghosted MULTIPLE times, and having people tell me they’re not interested. It’s shitty either way, but the honesty is a breath of fresh air. I was SO happy when the guy told me he didn’t feel a spark – there are still honest, good people out there.
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